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How To Kiss A Guy

This page focuses primarily on helping girls that want to learn how to kiss a guy. But, please take a look at the home page of how to kiss for more information on topics such as setting the mood for kissing, body language, initiating the kiss and kissing do’s and don’ts that apply to both girls and guys.

Whether you want to learn how to initiate the kissing, find out how to kiss a guy back, discover how to kiss a guy for the first time or simply how to become a better kisser the tips and advice shared here will help you to get it right without any fuss.

First of all, in most cases a boy will start kissing you first. However, there is nothing wrong in taking the initiative. If you both feel like kissing but neither party feels comfortable to make the first move, perhaps because it’s his first real kiss or will be the first time he kiss you, don’t be afraid to kiss him first. If you both wait it will only become awkward and the kiss will no longer be special, if it happens at all.

Secondly, most boys are a lot more physical than girls and it’s normal that you may feel reluctant to lead him on since you don’t want him to think you’re easy or cheap when all you want is to kiss him and nothing more. The good news is that any decent boy will respect a girl that says “no!” a lot more than a girl who has no boundaries.

However, note that he may try to find out exactly where your boundaries are so before you kiss him you should know how far you are willing to go and don’t hesitate to let him understand that you are only interested in kissing and nothing else if that is all you want to do.

Thirdly, boys like girls that look after themselves. You don’t need to look like a supermodel but make sure you breath smells fresh, your hair is washed, your lips are not dry or chapped and your fingernails are clean.

Avoid using too much makeup! It’s normal that you want to look your best but no guy wants to have powder all over his face or lipstick on his mouth after kissing you! Also bear in mind that he may want to kiss your cheeks or neck and does not want to have the horrible taste of makeup in his mouth afterwards!

Let’s look at some more specific tips now on how to kiss a boy.

How To Kiss A Guy – Step By Step Tips

Step 1. Show him you’re into him.

Girls are often too shy to show a guy that they like him. You have to give him some clear signals! However, don’t be too obvious about the fact that you have a crush on him though. Guys enjoy the thrill of the chase!

You want him to notice you. The best signal you can give him is to make eye contact with him while walking past him and you should have a friendly expression on your face. You don’t have to smile at him since that is too obvious but let him know that you see him. Guys don’t like to be ignored and rarely pursue girls that don’t even want to look at them.

If you catch him staring at you smile and look away. This will let him know that you don’t mind him looking at you and that you may be interested in him.

If he doesn’t find an excuse to talk to you first break the silence by asking him something while making eye contact with him. It can be something simple like finding out what time it is. Pay close attention to his body language… If he just looks at his watch, gives you the time and walks away without really noticing you he is not interested.

Most girls do not make first contact so he may be a bit surprised at you talking to him but it will make him feel that you’re comfortable talking to him and it will be easier for him to approach you in the future. Don’t keep on approaching him though! Once is enough. What you can do is say ‘hi’ to him next time you walk past him. This will show him that you remember him. But, don’t stop to strike up a conversation! You have given him enough signals. Let him make the next move.

Step 2. Make sure he is interested in you.

Some guys are very shy but you will normally know when a guy is interested in you! He will look at you more often than at other girls, will mostly ignore other girls when he around you and will try to be close to where you are as often as possible.

Don’t bother chasing after a guy that is not into you. You are wasting your time! If he doesn’t let you know first that he likes you or doesn’t respond to any of your subtle signals let him go and move on. If he wants you he will come after you. 

Image of a girl getting ready to kiss a guy.Step 3. Break the touch barrier.

Once you know that he is interested in you as well it is normal that you will feel like kissing him. However, the touch barrier has to be broken first. The best way you can do this, if he doesn’t do it first, is to touch him casually and innocently on a number of occasions. Be subtle about it! He will take notice and he will love it.

Here are a couple of ways you can break the touch barrier… While standing or sitting next to him briefly touch his hand, arm or shoulder a couple of times with your hand. Make it look as if you’re not even aware of what you’re doing so that it appears more natural to him. Guys love to be touched in this way!

What you are doing is sending him a subtle signal that that you are ready for physical contact. However, since you are being subtle about it he won’t be absolutely sure and if he is into you he will more than likely start touching you back in a similar way to see how you respond. If he does touch you back give him a soft smile to let him know that you don’t mind and that you are enjoying it.

Take note of what your body language is telling him. You may want to kiss him but if you’re very nervous your body language may send him mixed signals. You want to face him and do not cross your arms. Make it easy for him to hold your hand. If he does hold your hand, give it a slight squeeze to let him know that you like him and enjoy holding hands. He will more than likely squeeze your hand back right away.

Step 4. Go somewhere private.

You want your first kiss with a guy to be special and kissing him for the first time in a public will only make both of you more nervous and will probably make the people around you feel uncomfortable as well. Chances are he feels the same way and will prefer kissing you in private, especially if it’s the first time you kiss.

However, going up to his or your bedroom is too private and may create the impression that you are ready to do more than just kiss when it’s not your intention at all! Kissing him in private means being away from prying eyes but make sure there are other people not far away and that it’s not a good place to start making out.

Step 5. Take it slowly.

Stand close to him or sit next to him and hold his hand. Look into his eyes and at his lips. Break eye contact for a moment and softly bite your lower lip. It will make you look all vulnerable and nervous but cute at the same time. Guys love that!

By now he will more than likely lean towards you and kiss you. If he hesitates lean towards him, close your eyes and kiss him gently on the corner of his mouth. Pull back, bite your lower lip again and look into his eyes. Move your face towards him again, tilt your head slightly to the left or the right to prevent you from bumping noses, close your eyes and kiss him gently on the mouth before pulling back.

You may decide to keep holding hands while you kiss him or you may put one hand on his chest, hip or shoulder. You can also place a hand on his cheek and use it to turn his face towards you, as illustrated in the photo above.

Step 6. Turn up the intensity.

Lean towards him, tilt your head slightly to the left or the right, close your eyes and kiss his lower lip while slightly puckering your lips. Open your mouth slightly and use the tip of your tongue to gently caress his lips.

Slide the tip of your tongue slowly between his lips and wait for him to open his lips. When he opens his lips slide the tip of your tongue into his mouth and brush it against his tongue. Do not just stick your tongue into his mouth! Use the tip of your tongue to tease his lips and tongue.

Note: Many guys have a problem with wandering hands while kissing. If you don’t want his hands all over your body either hold his hands or take them and place them on your waist while holding them down. Most guys will find this exciting and he won’t be able to grope you.

Step 7. Cooling down.

After kissing him what you do next is up to you. You may decide to kiss him again or feel that it’s enough kissing for one time. But, don’t just abruptly stop!

Hold his hands, rest your head on his shoulder, look into his eyes and smile. You don’t need to say anything. Just enjoy the moment for what it is. You can tell him that you enjoyed kissing him very much if you want to but don’t thank him for kissing you! Just relax.

How To Kiss A Guy For The First Time

All of the kissing tips and steps outlined above apply whether you want to learn how to kiss a guy for the first time or whether you just want to be a better kisser or be more confident at kissing guys.

The main difference is that if you kiss a guy for the first time you will likely be a lot more nervous than if you are used to kissing him or have kissed many other guys in the past. That is normal but it’s nothing to worry about!

As you will know by now, kissing a guy is not difficult. It’s easy, fun and nothing to stress about! And, it will not make any difference to the guy if you are not perfect at kissing. In fact, he will probably appreciate you kissing him more if he thinks you don’t have a lot of experience kissing other guys!

Also see first kiss and how to kiss a boy for the first time for tips and advice on how to kiss a boy for the first time in three easy steps.

How To Get A Guy To Kiss You

Boys love to kiss girls. Even if he is only half as interested in you as you are in him you should have no problem getting him to kiss you if you follow the tips mentioned above.

All you really need to do is to give him the right signals and by the time you get to step 5 he will be itching to kiss you passionately.

The trick is not getting too serious too fast about your future expectations. A sure way of getting him to run for his life before you have even had your first kiss is to mention words like “marriage” and “children” too early on. Girls are normally more mature than guys at an early age and although you may already be thinking about the future it is highly unlikely that he wants to hear you talk about it.

Just take it easy. A kiss is only a kiss and maybe you will have to kiss a lot of frogs before you finally find your prince. In the meantime, just enjoy the experience of kissing a guy that you like.

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