Learning how to kiss a boy for the first time is not difficult. It’s normal to be nervous or to feel a bit shy. You know you want to kiss him but you’ve never done it before and you don’t want to mess it up, right? You worry about what he’ll think and whether you’ll be good enough… You wonder whether it’s his first time too and decide it probably isn’t… You are concerned about… STOP THINKING!
The first thing you need to do is to relax! It doesn’t matter how many girls he’s kissed before you. It doesn’t matter if a few strands of your hair are out of place, he probably hasn’t even noticed. Just relax, clear your mind and kiss him.
The most important piece of advice anyone can give you is not to wait too long! If you’re close enough to him, are both thinking about it and neither wants to make the first move it gets awkward! Just do it!
How To Kiss A Boy For The First Time In Three Easy Steps
Step 1. Show him you want to kiss him.
Lean in to him slowly. Look into his eyes, only for a couple seconds, but long enough to make a connection and to give him the message loud and clear that you want to kiss him.
It’s important that he knows what’s coming. It prevents those embarrassing situations where you’re about to kiss him but he doesn’t realize it, happens to look the other way and you make a fool of yourself.
Step 2. Start by kissing his upper lip.
Generally, a girl will kiss the guy’s upper lip and he will kiss her bottom one, but there is no set rule about it. Do what you feel comfortable with. Kiss his lip gently, once, then again and this time slightly longer. Your lips need to be slightly parted, not hard and puckered.
If you aren’t already holding him, put your arms around him and draw him closer. Take it slowly and just kiss his lips for a while.
Step 3. Kiss him more passionately.
When you’re ready, gently push the tip of your tongue against his lips so that he opens his mouth slightly. Have your tongue just on the inside of his lips, then touching his tongue lightly, all the while sucking (but very gently) his lips.
As the mood intensifies one of you will probably deepen the kiss, pushing your tongue deeper into the other’s mouth, but it is NOT about how deep your tongue can go! Do not stick your tongue down his throat and do not let him do that to you either, nobody finds that pleasant. Relax, and go with it.
You’ll find once you get started it comes naturally, and you had nothing to worry about in the first place.
How To Kiss A Boy For The First Time Tips
Here are a few additional tips on how to kiss a boy for the first time:
- It is always best to keep your lips slightly moistened before kissing someone. It makes the kiss more smooth and comfortable.
- Do not drool (you’d be surprised) and swallow excess saliva as it’s really just gross.
- While kissing, do not stress about your appearance or anything for that matter as he’ll pick up on your tension and the kiss will feel a bit strained.
- Remember to brush your teeth before kissing him! Failing that, chew gum.
- There are no rules as to where to put your hands. Do what you feel comfortable with but don’t leave your arms hanging at your sides.
- Don’t always wait for the guy to make the first move or expect him to take control. Be a little daring and he’ll love you for it.
Keep in mind, also, that everyone kisses differently. You need to find your own style that you are comfortable with. You will probably also find, though, that you will kiss different boys differently as you find a way unique to the two of you that suits you both.
As with anything, the more you do it the better you’ll get at it. But, the key is simply to relax and to go for it.