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First Kiss

Your first kiss does not have to be perfect but the following tips will help you to make it a positive and memorable experience. For many people, especially girls, the first kiss often makes or breaks a relationship.

Guys, pay attention… When you kiss a girl for the first time she often decides right there and then if she ever wants to kiss you again! Your kissing technique does not have to be perfect. But, you need to do all the right things at the right time and make it as natural as possible.

The good news is that kissing someone special for the first time is not hard. There are a couple of things you need to be aware of but after reading this article you will know everything you need to know.

First of all, relax and smile!

Chances are you have had your first kiss many years ago and that you don’t even remember it anymore!

Here is a very cute video I found on YouTube that I simply couldn’t resist sharing with you!

Kissing someone special for the first time is not so much about the physical act of kissing as it’s about showing someone that you have feelings for him or her.

The emotional aspect of your first kiss is a lot more important than the physical side of it. However, that does not mean that just any old kiss will do as your first kiss!

The topics covered on the home page (set the mood for kissing, initiating the kiss, how to kiss, and kissing do’s and don’ts) also apply to your first kiss and I suggest you visit the main how to kiss page for all the details. With that said let’s have a look at some kissing tips that will help you to get it right the first time.

First Kiss Tips

Here is a helpful list that covers what to do for your your fist kiss.

An image of a couple kissing for the first time.

Top 10 First Kiss Tips

1. Your first kiss should be in private.

Chances are you are going to feel a bit nervous as it is. The last thing you want to have is a group of spectators! And, even if kissing in public does not bother you it may bother your partner or make other people feel uncomfortable. Be considerate.

Your first kiss should be special. You don’t want any distractions!

2. Wait for the right place and time.

The moment has to be right. The fact that you may be thinking of kissing your partner all the time does not mean he or she is thinking the same thing at the same time. Be patient. There is no rush.

3. Have clean breath.

Make sure you brush and floss your teeth before kissing and if that is not possible at least chew some mint flavored gum. Remember to carry some with you all the time. Always go to the bathroom before kissing to check your teeth in the mirror, especially after a meal, to make sure you have nothing stuck in your teeth.

4. Don’t ask permission.

Asking for permission to kiss is awkward, spoils the mood and is a sign that you lack confidence. Your partner will let you know soon enough if he or she is not ready or willing to kiss you.

5. Lean forward and touch.

Show your partner through your body language that you want to kiss. If you’re a guy lean forward and stroke her hair, telling her how beautiful she is. If you’re a girl lean forward and touch your partner’s cheek.

6. Make eye contact.

Look your partner straight into the eyes before kissing. You can also shift your gaze to your partner’s lips and then back to his or her eyes as a hint that you feel like kissing.

7. Make sure your lips are moist.

It’s easier to kiss if your lips are slightly moist. Don’t lick your lips in front of your partner though! 

8. Tilt your head slightly and close your eyes.

Tilt your head slightly to the left or the right as you get ready to kiss and close your eyes just before your lips touch those of your partner’s. This will avoid you bumping noses!

9. Kiss and embrace.

Pucker your lips slightly as you start kissing. If you’re not sure what to do then start by kisssing your partner’s upper or lower lip, i.e. place your lips over either your partner’s upper or lower lip and gently massage his or her lip between your lips. You can also rub the the tip of your tongue against his or her lip at the same time.

Try to embrace your partner, if possible, while kissing. If you’re a girl you can put your arms around his neck and if you’re a guy put your arms around her waist, as illustrated in the photo above. 

10. Know when to stop.

After the initial kiss take a moment to catch your breath and re-establish eye contact with your partner. At this stage you may want to go for a second kiss. However, if you feel that one kiss is enough gently pull back from your partner. Knowing when to stop is just as important as knowing when to start kissing. 

Knowing what to do is important but you also need to know what to avoid doing. Here are some common mistakes you need to avoid.

Top 10 First Kiss Mistakes

1. Telling your partner you want to seduce him or her.

Don’t talk to your partner about your intentions. Kissing should come naturally and talking about what you want to do next only adds pressure on you as well as your partner. Just take it easy, one step at a time and see what happens next. It will be a lot more fun than knowing your partner’s every move in advance.

2. Being silly or talking too much.

People are often nervous before the first kiss and this may cause some people to act silly or talk too much about irrelevant things before kissing. It can completely ruin the mood.

3. Being too formal.

The more relaxed you are before kissing the more you will enjoy your first kiss. Kissing is not a serious business transaction. There is no need to be formal. But, remember to always be polite though!

4. Not following through with the kiss.

When you are unsure of yourself you may be tempted to pull back after you have already committed yourself to the kiss. Don’t do it! It will be much harder the second time! Just take it slow and you will be fine.

This is not a case of having second thoughts… You can always change your mind at any time!

5. Thanking your partner for kissing you.

This one is really funny! You’re partner is not doing you a favor by kissing you! Don’t thank him or her for kissing you, ever! What can say say though is that it was nice and that you enjoyed it.

6. Catching your partner by surprise.

It takes two people to kiss. Don’t catch your partner by surprise, especially not for your first kiss. You both need to be ready and in the mood to kiss.

7. Using too much tongue.

A common mistake is pushing your tongue into your partner’s mouth thinking that is how to French kiss. Well, it’s not! If you’re going to use your tongue during your first kiss use the tip of it to tease your partner’s lips or to caress his or her tongue. Don’t just stick it into your partner’s mouth!

8. Wiping your mouth afterwards.

Your lips and mouth may be moist or wet afterwards from our own saliva as well as that of your partner’s and your first natural reaction may be to wipe your mouth with your hand. Don’t do it! It is childish and may create the impression that you are somehow disgusted. If you have to wipe your mouth be discreet about it and make sure your partner does not see you doing it. 

9. Trying to go further too fast.

Don’t use the first kiss just as a step towards making out. It’s a special experience and there is no need to go any further. If you’re a guy you don’t want your partner to think that you only have one thing on your mind. In addition, keep your hands to yourself! Touching your partner’s hair, face or neck is fine. Trying to grope your partner is not cool.

10. Not rounding off the kiss.

When you’re finished kissing your partner on the mouth don’t immediately start talking about irrelevant things. Keep quiet, look into your partner’s eyes, touch his or her face or round off the kiss by kissing your partner’s ears, cheek or neck.

For some easy step by step tips on kissing a girl for the first time see how to kiss a girl for the first time and if you’re a girl feel free to take a look at the how to kiss a boy for the first time post.

If you’re thinking of kissing your partner during your first date but are not sure if it’s a good idea to kiss on the first date just remember there are no fixed rules on when and how you should kiss someone. In the end you have to do what feels right to you. 

By following the above do’s and don’ts I trust your first kiss will be awesome and memorable!

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